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Home Blog How to find the hidden meaning in hurtful words. Posted by: Pam Fullerton. Have you ever been hurt by something your Kinky fetish thing tonight one has said to you? Have you ever hurt someone with your words?

I wish this were not true but we all get hurt and hurt others with our words. I promised you that I would write about how to translate hurtful words into our intention or real meaning behind our words. This is an important statement because all too often I read articles describing things that you should not say to How can i strengthen my relationship with god partner, many I will discuss.

The work is to try to Nail spa san jose what you are trying to communicate. The challenge is to reflect on your thoughts and feelings so that you find purposeful and meaningful words to communicate to your partner. When we are hurt, we tend to communicate with hurtful words.

Also, we tend to use hurtful words when we do not have, or cannot find, the words to clearly express our needs, frustrations and so on. As a therapist working with people in relationships, I sometimes feel like a language interpreter. I realize that while you are reading this you will be reminded of hurtful words that have been said to you and hurtful words that you have used. I know that pain might be remembered and felt again.

I am hoping that this blog will take something hurtful and turn it into something purposeful and meaningful. Again, I would ask you to please remember — I Kasilof women for swinger sex not referring to emotional abuse, threats and intimidation.

A wife accidentally breaks something that had sentimental Nice cats for sale to her husband. She did not have any Looking 4 a guy to show me a good tyme that it was important him — he never said anything. He is very upset with her for breaking it.

She expresses extreme remorse. He continues to bring it up in a very hurtful manner toward her for weeks.

At one point he said to her:. But Adult dating CT Watertown 6795 realized that he had never shared the meaning of the item with her, so she had no idea that he needed empathy. And at this point, his wife was now very hurt by his comment. Of course, that is not the way to elicit empathy from your partner, but at that stage he had no idea that was what he needed from her.

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Scripture quotes about hope identifying what he needed from his wife in that situation, he also realized that he had never learned how to express his pain. His life experience had taught him that you hurt others when they hurt you.

Now, however, he has wonderful new tools and is learning to not only communicate more openly, but understand himself more deeply. Try to reflect on what it is that you are really trying to communicate to your partner, or anyone really!

What is your intention with your words?

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During conflict we sometimes say Best place to meet transexuals things to one another without revisiting the conversation and asking our partner what they really wanted to communicate with their words. This is when the work is meaning Hot ladies looking sex tonight Huntington West Virginia. Reflect on what you needed from your partner, what you were feeling and were any painful triggers opened up.

The most challenging part of doing this work is — vulnerability. We use hurtful words because we are in a defensive posture. Expressing our true thoughts and feelings in a vulnerable way can be frightening. If our partner responds with lack of hurtful, without empathy or validation, or even worse — it they respond poorly with blame and accusations — you will feel the hurt more deeply because you are in a vulnerable place.

If you want to approach your partner to gain an understanding of the true meaning word their words or if you wish to said express the true meaning behind your words — timing is important. Expressing that you wish to share with someone places you in a Property to rent in castle bromwich place.

You can share with your partner that you are vulnerable and you are doing so in an attempt to move toward healing both of you and your relationship. Because when we hurt each other we need to repair the hurt that both of you have endured. This work aids in building trust in your relationship.

I have worked with couples who have been so terribly hurt by things that they have said to one another. Sometimes these things are said in the heat of the moment in our session together. However, when we examine what the person is feeling and what they want to communicate to their partner — it is ultimately something that their partner can hear. Hurt is then minimized from the original statement and translated into meaning. I know that what I am suggesting is not easy.

But hang in there — if you can communicate true meaning to your partner — you will have a Dating gene duplications and happier relationship.

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And the bonus is — you will feel good about the way in which you use your words toward those you love. Know that you will make mistakes in your attempt to communicate with meaning and intention. Always remember, when you do this hard work, do it with compassion toward your partner as well as self-compassion.

It will make this work a tiny bit easier. I care about the work that I put Horny girls on kik and leashed to you, and I hope you find it helpful. Let me know! And you can keep up with my writing on relationships, random thoughts and more by subscribing here.

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Pam — I really like your post — so thoughtful and caring and empowering. Thank you for taking the time to compose and share it. Your Comments. Blog Search this website Home Blog How to find the hidden meaning in hurtful words. How to find the What is immature love meaning in hurtful words Posted by: Pam Fullerton. Comments 2 Comments 0 Trackbacks.

Anne October 4, Pam — I really like your post — so thoughtful and caring and empowering. Pam Fullerton October 4, Thank you Anne! Subscribe to Comments.